CompassionwithAddiction with Carrie Wilkens

Books Mentioned In This Interview

Carrie Wilkens, PhD, is cofounder and clinical director of the Center for Motivation and Change (CMC). She is coauthor of The Parent’s 20 Minute Guide to Change: A Guide for Parents About How to Help their Children Change their Substance Use, The Partner’s 20 Minute Guide: A Guide for Partners About How to Help their Loved One Change their Substance Use, Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change, and The Beyond Addiction Workbook for Family and Friends: Evidence-Based Skills to Help a Loved One Make Positive Change. The CMC: Foundation for Change website is

Carrie shares that loved ones can support people struggling with substance use with compassion and positive strategies that can help motivate them to change, without enabling or codependency. She describes when substance use may be a problem and that there are a million ways to heal.

00:00 Introduction

01:38 Myth of hitting rock bottom

04:18 Motivation for Change

06:10 Prescription medication and medical marijuana

06:40 Alcohol and nicotine – the most loss of life

07:26 Cannabis availability challenging parents

07:59 Invitation to Change

13:46 Compassion for person with the problem and caregiver

17:41 Mental health – shame and trauma

22:35 Sobriety is a learned behavior

26:12 Recreational use vs. addiction

29:05 Gateway drugs

33:30 Medical marijuana, CBD, and whole plant medicine

37:52 How a loved one can help

42:23 Overdose story

44:57 Positive communication strategies

47:43 Psychic and empathic abilities

52:58 Community building

56:39 Psychedelics and mind expansion

59:40 Conclusion

New Thinking Allowed CoHost, Emmy Vadnais, OTR/L, is an intuitive healer and health coach based in St. Paul, Minnesota. She is the author of Intuitive Development: How to Trust Your Inner Knowing for Guidance With Relationships, Health, and Spirituality. Her website is

(Recorded on December 16, 2022)

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Published on January 13, 2023


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